 Hi all, Cat Ryan here. I just want to say that I have now exhausted my internet dating exploits and I just give up! I’ve had it with the Nigerian scammers, the married men posing as single men, the married men telling me they’re married and still looking for “a bit on the side”, the weirdos, the psychos, the tightarses who make you pay for your own coffee, the ones who want to make contact with you but are not prepared to send you an email through the online site because it costs them money to make initial contact—so yeah, they expect Cat to fork out. And let's not even get into the "gigolos" who tell Cat she looks like she's 25 years of age (just to get her in the sack) when she knows very well she's in her 40s--mind you, a good looking 40! Yes, I still got it. LOL. God, you name it and Cat’s been through it. For a millisecond, Cat actually considered running off with a lipstick lesbian who propositioned her. LOL! But no, Cat’s a straight girl and she’s looking for a real man. It seems the quest is over though, and Cat hasn’t found “the one”. The good news is that Cat is the main character in my novel “Like Casablanca”, so she’s lucky in that in the end she’ll find the prince; well, that’s if she doesn’t blow it. But what’s in store for Cat’s creator, novelist Sylvia Massara? Well, she’s now planning “murder and mayhem”, a more entertaining pursuit than trying to find romance. This is Cat Ryan and Sylvia Massara signing off from the Cat Ryan Internet Dating Capers—and we thank every one of you who’ve left comments in the past on Cat’s posts. Ciao for now! 
12 Comments
8/12/2011 09:01:26
Cat/Sylvia - it never fails to amaze me how willing some women are to get back on the horse after they have fallen off! Do not wish away your full freedom. What on earth do you want with a man, real or otherwise? The same goes for men - why would you want to date after a divorce? At least their reluctant behaviour while they are enduring a token date is easy to ascribe... the stingy ones have been taken to the cleaners - how generous do you think they are ever going to be again? The married ones are desperately unhappy - why would they make any other relationship work? The poseurs and fakes are cheats - how would you expect honesty from that quarter?
paul
8/12/2011 11:51:02
So true. Although you have to be committed to keep going but the freedom is wonderful. Takes a bit of time to work out that you do actually like yourself after being - how do we say it politely - shafted. You occasionally need a partner or new / old friend to remind you of that. Paul 45++ 8/12/2011 14:41:02
@Rosanne, I must say I do relish my freedom, but I also believe that you can be free within a relationship if you are with the person who is right for you. I don't believe age has anything to do with it. To me, it's more a "meeting of the minds" or a "meeting of the souls". Call me a hopeless romantic, but there you have it. Having said this, it doesn't exactly follow that one is unhappy because they are alone. On the contrary, one can be happy by themselves as long as they are happy inside. So I guess it's a matter of choice.
Kathleen Knoth
8/12/2011 18:00:05
I won, I won !!! I'm sooo excited !!! Thanks, Sylvia !!!
paul
8/13/2011 01:34:18
sylvia. I will get kicked out of the union but I understand now why so many men have affairs or have someone lined up before they leave their wives. Pure insecurity and/or fear of having to fend emotionally by themsleves. Have also learnt a lot about low self esteeem - the reason why so many people - men and women - are looking for the 'next big thing'. It never lasts. The ultimate 'cop out' is to say that you have to 'find yourself'. You can still do that within a relationship. Thats what support and trust is all about. 8/13/2011 02:00:17
@Kathleen, congratulations! The ebook is on its way to you now :-) Hope you enjoy!
paul
8/13/2011 02:42:29
Sylvia. As friggin' lame as it sounds the only thing you have left after all of this is integrity. It's about all i was left with anyway ( not really true). I came through on every promise re money but still have moments of unbridled anger at the injustice. Sadly you already know who wins when it goes to court and it wont be you two. I do family law valuations ( more irony) and always advise my clients to settle early - thru gritted teeth. But I know that is not always possible. The karma truck does eventually arrive however. And its worth waiting for. 8/13/2011 08:34:16
Hi Paul, I know the courts aren't always fair, but I'm hoping that I will at least get what's mine. I'm not trying to take what's his, but if he refuses then I guess it'll be up to the courts. What else can I do? It's the only money I have at present, and I need it.
paul
8/14/2011 06:52:54
Accepted the FB friend request - thanks. This divorce business is just brutal. And you have to go thru the courts to get whats yours if he wont co-operate. But vindication comes in the strangest forms. Happy to provide any advice you might need (not touting for business btw). Sometimes you need someone outside the circle. Always keep a little something up your sleeve when you negotiate ( not Sun Tzu more Gordon Gecko). 8/16/2011 20:16:25
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