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10/6/2020

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I have blogged about this most of unsavoury subjects in the past, but it seems cyberbullying is reaching pandemic (no pun intended) proportions these days, especially with the advent of Covid-19, bushfires, floods, other global warming events, corrupt politicians who want to go on killing koalas--and the environment in general--all in favour of the mighty dollar, and so on.

Nerves are frayed and emotions run high, and frankly I don't blame people for being oversensitive about everything in their lives right now including what happens on social media. Billions of people are venting their frustrations, fears, and anger on other nations, governments, institutions, the self-serving rich and powerful, and (unfortunately) on each other.

Most of us follow social etiquette in real life if we want to fit in with the culture in our environment, but there are those who turn into monsters when it comes to dealing with people on social media. These sick, cowardly, and pathetic individuals have a tendency to select a small fragment of information that someone may have posted online and they use social media to really let it rip, no matter what the context of the actual post is about.

I could understand if these people were directly provoked and they wanted to somehow defend themselves (although insulting/bullying behaviour never really works), but to tear into someone when there is no real provocation, and especially when people rarely bother to read the entire post and any attached news articles or accompanying information--well, that's another thing entirely.

These individuals merely select a small fragment of what someone has posted and in their ignorance they run off with it and start to troll the author of the post without rhyme or reason (and most important of all without bothering to actually read the entire article, post, or thread so at least they can get the context of the whole post before they make their own inane, insulting, or merely stupid remarks). Sadly, many people think trolls are ferals, but this is not the case. I have personally read trolling comments from doctors, lawyers, and other so-called educated and seemingly civilised people.

I am sure we are all guilty of trolling to some degree by having expressed our anger towards politicians, celebrities, or other powerful entities who are corrupt, milk the poor and needy, or those intent on destroying the environment, etc, etc. And that's human nature, especially when big targets attract huge audiences. But to these individuals infamy can be just as powerful as being famous and as long as the dollars keep rolling in these people shrug off every bit of trolling.

Trolling is a bullying behaviour and it can often have a big impact on ordinary lives--lives that cannot afford to sue people or use the trolling as an excuse for more exposure and build-up to their own fame and power.

So how do you deal with a cyberbully who often chooses to hide behind their computer or Smartphone because they don't have the balls to show you who they really are? This type of entity is the most cowardly bully of all--an individual who hides behind avatars and secrecy for their own ends, mainly to bully or troll others on social media.

Wikipedia defines a troll as a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people
by posting inflammatory, extraneous or off-topic messages in an online community with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussions.

In my opinion, a troll is a cyberbully without a life of their own. And if you're wondering what a troll looks like, the answer is: like anybody. They come in all shapes and sizes. But I like to think of them as per the pics below:


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One troll
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Many trolls
PictureActor James Woods
Why am I re-posting about trolls? Well, it all started with a few tweets I read from actor James Woods. Mr Woods, like many of us, is an interactive and prolific Twitter(er) and he expresses an opinion on many (often inflammatory) topics. Nothing wrong with that, right? I follow his tweets because I'm interested in what he's got to say. He tweets a lot about politics and even though I don't live in the US--hence I don't understand much about American politics--I still have an interest in many of the things Mr Woods has to say.

Unfortunately, my enjoyment of Mr Woods' tweets are usually marred by many cowardly creatures who dedicate their energy to wasting other people's time and enjoyment in using social media.

Let's face it, trolls are tedious, terrible and tormenting creatures with little minds and no imagination who should really get out there and do something constructive with their lives for a change instead of making ours a misery.

My opinions are my own, just as Mr Woods' opinions are his--and you, the reader, also have an opinion that you may wish to express. Now, you may or may not agree with what I say, what Mr Woods says, or what someone else says, but there is absolutely no need to start acting like an exorcist-type entity--and one that often uses words that half the time they cannot even spell.


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I quite enjoy the way Mr Woods deals with cyberbullies/trolls--he simply shakes them like water off a duck's back and blocks them with a witty comment and the now very famous hashtag he invented: the #INSTABLOCK.

I have joined endless discussions on Twitter about many topics, like most of us do, but in the years that I've been tweeting I've had the misfortune to come across a number of very ignorant individuals,  some of whom have abused me for no good reason. And by the way, trolls should understand that if they tweet or post something on a public forum they should expect other people to interact with their tweets/posts, and not take offense when others hit back. Remember: what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

In conclusion, since these most unfortunate incidents of bullying/trolling have occurred I've taken a page from Mr Woods'  effective way of dealing with these trolls and I now use the #INSTABLOCK hashtag to get rid of them when I block them and their rubbishy, bullying comments. I may not use this hashtag for every troll because at times this can be time consuming. Having said this, if you find yourself blocked by an #INSTABLOCK coming from me you may go ahead and feel complimented because the other boring trolls out there simply get blocked from my account without a by-your-leave. My final message to all trolls (cyberbullies) is clearly depicted in the cartoon below.

And on a last note, I'd like to thank Mr Woods for inspiring such a great way to get rid of these "waste of cyberspace" individuals.

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Nicole Chardenet link
11/18/2015 14:18:36

Good post, Sylvia, and spot on. Thing is, is these wastes of protoplasm are always going to be with us, even if the Internet went all-real-name, so the best thing is to do as Mr. Woods do - shake them off and #INSTABLOCK (I didn't even know about that hashtag! I'll have to remember that!)

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Sylvia Massara link
11/18/2015 14:28:01

I agree that cyberbullying would continue even if people used their real identity, but I believe this would cut out the number of bullies because the real fierce ones are the cowards that don't want to be identified. That's why if someone's got the balls to reveal themselves (even if they do make an abusive comment) I'd have a little more respect for them. The others are simply a waste of space (and cyberspace). I just love James Woods' way of dealing with them. He's renowned for dealing with trolls so very effectively. He takes no prisoners, I tell you!

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Tanja H K
1/15/2016 13:17:44

Well...
Seen many levels of bullying & trolling & unfortunately b/c of my illness I'm quite easily provoked. But unfortunately b/c of my mental & my direct & honest attitude& sarcastic humour, people often misunderstand me. I know my demons, but you otherwise don't know what my life is like. Like I don't know anyone else's life. What annoys me is the judgement what people do because of one sentence, few mistakes you did. It makes me wonder if persons like me shouldn't be online at all because we're making other people's days there so terrible. It's easy to say "snap out of it" when you don't live in other persons shoes, & don't know how much they're fighting against that symptom.
I'm not saying that it's ok to be nasty to others. But sometimes it's not that black&awhile & it's not what it looks like.
I know what your point was in your post, and I agree on that,
But I just wanted to give another point of view.
That's all.

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Sylvia Massara link
1/16/2016 09:01:46

Dear Tanja, I agree 100% with you because I also suffer from a painful chronic condition and have been for 6 years now. So I have my bad days when I'm irritated and I may make a sarcastic comment or use my wicked humour; and this may push some buttons with others who are not inside my body and who do not know what I'm going through. I'm there with you all the way.

My point, however, is that I can't abide bullies who use swear words or say really nasty things to another person simply because they expressed their opinion. I've been bullied without even expressing my opinion, which is kind of strange as I was only asking someone quite an innocent question. In my world, there is no place for insensitive people like this. If I can refrain from telling someone to f**k off even when I'm in one of my massive flare ups, then so can they.

I wish you well, and sending you healing vibes from the land down under. I know what it's like to live with illness.

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Tanja HK
1/17/2016 01:14:39

Hi Silvia and thank you for your kind reply

It's hard for me too to accept any kind of bullying, and especially that sort what you mentioned.
I've tried to get to know people and tell them about my illness. Tried to explain that I don't mean to be mean& If I start acting "strange", I'm not myself. It's not about them, the problem isn't in them, it's in me. Sometimes they understand and sometimes I fail terribly.

What makes me scared, is that the social media is full of hatred nowadays. People seems to have lost their reality and ability to communicate with people. Also some kind of respect for other people seems lost.

Like people seems to want to control others how to feel about something, like how people should mourn and who they should or shouldn't mourn. Which is ridiculous.
That hatred & nastiness makes me distressed.

Sylvia Massara link
1/17/2016 09:07:40

Tanja, I totally understand and know how you feel. I rarely tell people about my health condition as I've had some of them make inappropriate remarks that hurt my feelings--such as "get over it" and "move on". No one understands another's feelings unless they are able to empathise with the person and imagine what it must be like to live with a chronic condition or illness.

Since then, I've learned to ignore people who make such inane remarks, for those, too, are a kind of bullying. It's more like mental abuse and belittling someone. I steer clear of these people and have no wish to know them.

I try to be conscious of others, however, when I post and I try not to make remarks that will hurt them in turn. Having said this, I've become intolerant of people who treat others with a lack of respect or they treat them differently because they are different! For people like this I now "block" them. This is why I like actor James Woods' approach. He's so cool :D

Life's too short to waste on individuals who cyberbully or treat you with a lack of respect. Best thing is to block them and move on. I've found some lovely friends on social media and have been keeping in touch with them for years. I stick to those who are friends. How do I know the difference between friends or foes; it's not their sweet words but their actions that count. They're all nice at the beginning, it's what they do afterwards that counts.

I wish you all the best and hope you will simply shake these bullies out of your life like a duck shakes water off its back. They're just not worth your time.

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